Working moms are working to make their children’s lives and the world better

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I am “sick and tired,” of being “sick and tired” of articles that repetitively spread the pervasive myth that mothers who work at jobs outside their homes are not doing right by their children.

That is simply not true, and in fact, mothers who work (and most women around the world have to work) are very likely doing more for the emotional, psychological, and intellectual development of their children than “stay at home moms”.

Of course for children under junior high school age, for safety reasons, it is best arrangements are made so they do not come home to an empty home.

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In a recent Pew Research study cited above “about half of the adults” participating in the study, “said that children were better off with their mothers at home.”

Who are these adults rendering their authority? Also, the result of a study without a double-bind is worthless.  Rather, show me two groups of children, one group with stay at home moms, and another group without. Then define what is meant by “better off.” Also, what are the results of these groups in their adult years?

Years ago as a Dean of Students in Napa, California secondary schools, I initiated a study relating parent situation with problem students, that is students who were continually disruptive in class, tardy, truant, belligerent, without homework, or generally uncooperative.

My study revealed that most problem students had stay at home moms. Not all-stay-at-home moms had students who were at problem at school, but most problem students had stay at home moms.

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Then I made a study of the parental situation between students leaders and also honor roll students and found that most in these two groups had working mothers.

These students, of necessity or not, had learned to come home from school, chose to do homework or chores, or both, and to work their hourly allocation schedules to have some time for recreation and some for responsibilities, responsibilities which were required either by their parents, or ones they required of themselves.

In other words, because of the opportunities to work things out for themselves, they developed initiative, which was rewarded by their own success, or their parents’ appreciation in their share of household chores including, for instance, doing their own laundry, changing their sheets, or even shopping for supplies needed for dinner.

Rather than looking on the mass of women “breadwinners” negatively as it impacts children, it should be valued as a developing demographic which helps future citizens take their place in the adult work with confidence, self-esteem, initiative, and problem-solving skills.

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About June Stephenson

June Stephenson is the author of 20 books about women’s issues, parental responsibility, the humanities, philosophy, comparative religion, music, architecture, parenting, sexual abuse, child abuse, spousal abuse, incest, crime, women’s studies, aging, tyranny, family, marriage, and divorce. The accomplished author has a degree from Stanford in economics and a Ph.D. in psychology with 25 years of teaching experience in history and English. Stephenson’s well-researched and documented approach combined with an easy-to-read style, offers readers enrichment and enjoyment. She also is an award-winning artist with many red ribbons from juried art shows throughout California. Stephenson has two daughters and two granddaughters, and lives in Palm Desert, California, with her Labradoddle named Happy.

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